do you believe in love?

[Jing]

i for one just have been wondering about this for a long time, i know it is kind of a high tension subject for people and i can turn out bad really quick, but i just was wondering what everyone elses views on it were. for me, i believe in love...i believe it can happen. it is possible to be in love with someone, and possible for someone to fall in love with you. but there are a lot of people who believe love is just some fairy tale feeling that could never happen, and was made up. it had me up in arms when i heard about these people, i respect their views as a person, but to deny the one of the very things that keeps me alive is offensive to me.

 

[Link]

I believe in it like crazy. I have never experienced it truly for myself but have seen it in others. I know that someday I'll get to finally experience it for myself but alas it's also depressing waiting for it. However the satisfaction I'll get when I meet that special someone will be unrivaled.

 

[Sephiroth X]

Love isn't just an experience, It's a strong physical attraction, and mental attraction. I believe love happens whens two people get extremly attracted to each other... People can say it's just lust. But lust doesn't last. I have more to say but ill type it out later.

 

[Link]

Oh I know I just couldn't word it the way I wanted to. It's not something I have felt/experienced/had/seen or whatever the case for myself. But I do hope that there is someone who likes me for who I am not what I look like.

 

[Cloud]

I believe in it like crazy. I have never experienced it truly for myself but have seen it in others. I know that someday I'll get to finally experience it for myself but alas it's also depressing waiting for it. However the satisfaction I'll get when I meet that special someone will be unrivaled.

Thing with that is that you can't wait for love to find you man. I beleive love is real but its like like your absolutely going to meet the person right for you thats just foolish. You have to go a look. there's 6 billion people in the world and to only find one who loves you back is very difficult. I think that it is possible to fall in love without trying but it's not very likely.

I think people can fall in love anytime as well such as face to face, even over the internet...its not unheard of.

My final comment for this post is that love is what you make it. It takes work to stick it out together as love isn't a permanent glue, you have to keep working at it. Just don't mix it up with Lust which is a common mistake, although lust can turn into love with a little extra effort.

 

[Serenity]

Love is something that truley does exist.. And I admit love can hurt in many different ways..But it's the most wonderful feeling..there is a difference between being in love and just love two, which I have learned.. But Love does go on, it's something that everyone should experience at least once in their life. I strongly believe in it. Iv'e been in love as well..and well, I still am..but sadly I' going to have to wait..I'll do anything for it..thats how willing I am to stick with it.

 

[Cloud]

I mus admit that i'm a sucka for love which explains why FF9 is my absolute favourite lol. Although I usually end up falling for people who don't feel anything for me in return which is a major bummer. To be honest if i didn't have my beleif in love i don't know what i would do. I think i've been in love once before and very badly in deed. I couldn't stop thinking about her every second I was away and it drove me nuts lol. We knew each other for about 2 years and dated for a little while BUT like i said the feelings weren't returned.

I also see love as something beyond physical attraction and too be honest majority of the people I liked immensly were super models or even close. Call me a sucka but its the way I am.

 

[Jing]

once again i do believe love exists. i have felt it only once...but like cloud stated, feelings are not always returned when you fall in love. not to mention the person i fell in love with didn't believe in love... i know to many people love is sexual relationships and such but its not that. its not about sex, or physical attraction, or even how much you have in common. It's about the simple issue of wether the person you have fell in love with Loves you the same as you do them. i believe love is..Thinking about the person you love all the time, not wanting to spend a single minute without them...and just simply wanting to be with them. not having to do anythign together but be with one another to be happy. Thats just my personal opinion of course. but then again like i have told many people, loved ones and friends, Love is like a weapon...only act on it if you are ready to accept the consequences which may come as the result if things turn out bad.

also i want everyone to be clear on what kind of love we are talking about, i dont want anyone to think we are talking love like you love your family, or love like you love your friends. We are talking about loving and being loved in a romantic sense. Last but not least Love isnt something you can control, and it can hit you in the blink of an eye. so if you are looking for someone to love you, or you just want to be loved by someone then be patient. i know its hard...as i am still being patient...but be patient and you will find that special someone. that someone who is going to love you just like you love them. all it takes is time.

 

[Cloud]

once again i do believe love exists. i have felt it only once...but like cloud stated, feelings are not always returned when you fall in love. not to mention the person i fell in love with didn't believe in love...

Even though I only quoted this bit the whole thing you wrote was put very nicely.

What i'm getting at with that qoute is that its amazing the things you think of when someone else says but after reading it I'm starting to think that love is only love once you find someone who also returns the same feelings. Like when I beleived that I was in love it wasn't technically love bacuse my significant other didn't feel the same. We all know that love takes two to tango so this thoery is not toally void. Just a little niblet for your brain to munch on

 

[QueenOfDeath]

I'm starting to think that love is only love once you find someone who also returns the same feelings. Like when I beleived that I was in love it wasn't technically love bacuse my significant other didn't feel the same. We all know that love takes two to tango so this thoery is not toally void. Just a little niblet for your brain to munch on

Unrequited love is the worst :sad:

But still, I believe in love 100% and I know I'm a total sucker for it. I have had some bad relationships in the past, but that hasn't deterred me from believing in it. Honestly, I think that people who don't believe in it are too cynical. I like to think of it in a romantic sense, rather than thinking of it as nothing more than a series of hormones and electrical impulses.

I also think it's pretty hard to distinguish between love and lust, at least at the beginning because similar hormones are involved. True, there is a different between loving a friend or family member and actually being in love.

It was interesting what you said, Cloud, about falling in love with someone over the interent. I know in the past I have been attracted to people that I've met on the internet, but I don't think that it could truly be love. I think to love someone, you actually have to be physically attracted to them, and spend time with them, but I don't know.

 

[Cloud]

It was interesting what you said, Cloud, about falling in love with someone over the interent. I know in the past I have been attracted to people that I've met on the internet, but I don't think that it could truly be love. I think to love someone, you actually have to be physically attracted to them, and spend time with them, but I don't know.

Like I said before, it may not be true love and to be honest I think it would be pretty damn hard to have it happen to you. And also as i said its not totally unheard of people do get married and not just mail order either lol. It was just another side track I tried to bring in to make it more interesting as well.

I like what your saying as love being chemicals or electrical impulses as well. You have to beleive that it is because their is nothing else which can do it (unless you beleive in souls) despite it only being chemicals IMO it still makes you feel the same "love" which ever way you want to look at it.

 

[Nitz]

I sort of agree with QueenOfDeath... I think you don't exactly.. have to be with the physically... I mean yeah SOONER or later you HAVE to... for it to work out.. but I think you can verbally have a relationship too... and you know what....

people always say.. it won't work or BS crap... IT WILL ONLY WORK IF THE 2 PEOPLE ARE COMMITED... meaning NOT one... NOT none.. but BOTH.... have to be REALLY commited.. and say yes... I am willing to push myself through it all good/bad.... to be with them... or work something out....

As for love... I dunno, I think you shouldn't get attached to people.... and if you are.. you shouldn't be afraid of anything or anyone if u really love or want to be with your someone.... but sometimes... and I dunno if I said this earlier.. but I must have... be ready for the best or (in pretty most cases for me so far lol) be ready for the worst....

All I can say is.. if you love someone... don't be scared to tell them.. weither or not they love you back... if they do.. then good.. if not.. well tough luck... move on and jus leave them alone... as someone told me "just leave her, or you'll hurt her even more"

Bottom line... don't "fear" anything.... if you love something.. theres nothing to be scared about.,... not like youe doing anything wrong.

 

[Daemon Sadi]

I do and don't believe in love.

I think that each 'love' is different, and also the same.

I've only been in love with one person, at least true love, as it's called.

But love is such a vauge description.

I love this person wholly, and I love the person completely. I see said persons faults, and love them, because those make the person who it is. I love the way this person talks, and how this person can deal with me.

 

[Crimson]

I really don't know if I believe in love or not. At least, I know when love is there; I mean REALLY there. In the relationship I'm in now, I don't really feel any love between the both of us. I don't necessarily believe in it with this relationship. So, it's kind of 50-50 with me.

 

[The Legendary Saviour]

Okay what do I have to add to this interesting thread? I dont think you could call me a love expert, lets see what pops into my head when I heard this item.

First of all love can be so much, you can love a thing (like cars) or for example a sport (like I love tennis ^^ ) But at the same time you can also love a person which is something totally different. And then you can love a person for example your best friend or your boyfriend/girlfriend. Or you can love your family, your mum or your brother for example.
And everytime we use the same word: love. Thats quite ridiculous but shows how flexible and different love is. It can be differentl strong every time we speak about love.
It comes and goes, but nobody really knows why it comes and goes again.
Love can hurt and can make happy, it combines so many things. Many people would die for their love, that makes it quite scary, no?

Its indeed something you can think about for hours.

 

[Nitz]

LOL the way you talk about it TLS... sounds like its one of those questions like..."what's the meaning of life" its sort of a never ending.. kinda going on.. kinda topic/word

 

[The Legendary Saviour]

Well in fact love is a never ending talk topic =P
And I'm *cough* a philosoph

 

[The Laughing Man]

Well, the people who believe that love is in fairytales either haven't experienced true love yet so they give up on it, or they expected more. When someone loves someone they act like it's a fairytale, once they break up they treat it like a lie. The fact is that it was only one person. Maybe you'll never find the right person, so love doesn't exist to you. It does not mean that love does not exist, love exists in the smallest part of every heart and mind.

 

[Cloud]

When someone loves someone they act like it's a fairytale, once they break up they treat it like a lie.

Thats an interesting qoute their man I like that. BUT you have to remember that we developed fairytales around love not love around fairytales. Which I think means there has to be love or such fairytales would never exsist.

Also when break ups occur people always want to deny they've made a mistake so they are able to get over it quicker...If you have to deny or lie about a relationship which ended that was a version of love to me. Even just a small relationship, it was diff strength of love.

 

[QueenOfDeath]

Well, the people who believe that love is in fairytales either haven't experienced true love yet so they give up on it, or they expected more. When someone loves someone they act like it's a fairytale, once they break up they treat it like a lie. The fact is that it was only one person. Maybe you'll never find the right person, so love doesn't exist to you. It does not mean that love does not exist, love exists in the smallest part of every heart and mind.

Nicely said, but I disagree that you can only ever love one person. If that was the case, and we were all predestined to have only one soulmate on this earth, the likelihood of us finding this soulmate and falling in love would be extremely rare. Yet, clearly many people are in love (that I know off anyway). I believe that there are several people, exclusive to ourselves that we are quite capable of falling in love with.