Do you guys think its bad when two people decide they want to get married right after high school or just being engaged at an early age?
Early Marriages
- Thread starter Deadnight Warrior
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Geer
High Prophet of Blue
Yes. Because most of the people who decide to get married right after highschool are too "Immature" to get married. I say that because after a few years their interests are going to change and they will move farther apart, (personality wise). They will soon not like what the other person likes and not talk to eachother in any way. And another thing is that they will be too eager. So to speak. They would want to have babbies but then realizing that they wouldn't have enough money to support it. So there could be alot of things that would go wrong.
I think it depends... i mean if ur both or one of you is harsh loaded.. then who cares? you don't need to worry... but if your both young.. not really rich and have to pursue careers like most of us... marriage isn't something that should be rushed.. I think getting engaged isn't bad though... because its not like your married so if things do turn around.. well it's easier to move on..
I would say.. just stay togethor and dont rush into it.. but stay close and when time comes... and it will someday.. then get married.. when your very ready.. when you have stable jobs and careers.. have a home of your own and are ready to commit... usually when your younger you cant commit.. you have so much other stuff to worry about like school.
I would say.. just stay togethor and dont rush into it.. but stay close and when time comes... and it will someday.. then get married.. when your very ready.. when you have stable jobs and careers.. have a home of your own and are ready to commit... usually when your younger you cant commit.. you have so much other stuff to worry about like school.
I also say that it depends.. but my mind gears toward more of a "no" answer but its still possible... When your young and just getting out of Highschool, dont you want to go to college and persue on with your career? Dont you want to get used to the fact of living alone on your own..or even with roomates..how you handle situations and things around the house? To me its good not to rush and get things done quickly.. No one will ever be happy when things change for the worse.
I guess what im trying to say is that.. I believe that you should go to school.. Graduate..Go through with college..and if you really love someone stay in touch with them..doesnt mean you cant have a relationship..finish school..possibly be roomates with that someone if you wish to see what its like living with them everyday..and go from there.. like Nitz said...I don't think there is anything wrong with engagement...if you truly love someone then whatevers mean to be will happen.
I guess what im trying to say is that.. I believe that you should go to school.. Graduate..Go through with college..and if you really love someone stay in touch with them..doesnt mean you cant have a relationship..finish school..possibly be roomates with that someone if you wish to see what its like living with them everyday..and go from there.. like Nitz said...I don't think there is anything wrong with engagement...if you truly love someone then whatevers mean to be will happen.
Geer
High Prophet of Blue
Im going to a vocatoinal school right now and I know someone who said that after a week of going out with someone the asked that girl to marry her. I dont know what she said but I do know that, that guy is a moron. Another friend of mine asked a girl he dated for only a month to marry him. She said yes but they never did. He found out she cheated on him and now she wants him back. They are all morons for doing this. That's why I think early marrigages wont work and people who try it will most likely get divorced.
Yeah.. never rush into stuff like that...
If it was me I'd date the girl, mabye get a place togethor and try it out.. see what happens. That way if things go wrong, there are no big issues. You can ech pack your bags and move on.. where as your married, you have to go through courts and all that crap.. it's not worth the hassle.
Just don't rush into marriage.. it's something that you need to think about.. not just say HEY I'M GONNA GET MARRIED!!! without really sitting down and looking over everything.
If it was me I'd date the girl, mabye get a place togethor and try it out.. see what happens. That way if things go wrong, there are no big issues. You can ech pack your bags and move on.. where as your married, you have to go through courts and all that crap.. it's not worth the hassle.
Just don't rush into marriage.. it's something that you need to think about.. not just say HEY I'M GONNA GET MARRIED!!! without really sitting down and looking over everything.
Depends on the maturity of the two. I wasnt mature, though i thought i was at 18. Some ppl can do it. Some can't. But if the ppl who love them suggest they shouldnt, they should seriously think on it at the least.
Personally, i don't think you should get married after high school.
Yet, we can't stop ya, we need 23 votes for that!
Ya, I agree that most early marriages do not work out how they should. But, I believe my own parents got married when they were both somewhat young, and their still together, O. o .
Aren't more marriages here, in the Us, not working out, as well?
Maybe, it's sociality, and how the youth is growing up now a days.. or nu?
Yet, we can't stop ya, we need 23 votes for that!
Ya, I agree that most early marriages do not work out how they should. But, I believe my own parents got married when they were both somewhat young, and their still together, O. o .
Aren't more marriages here, in the Us, not working out, as well?
Maybe, it's sociality, and how the youth is growing up now a days.. or nu?
well im gessing none of you are young and engaged eh? i am and its to some one i never met in person (akuma kaze....) and we've know each other for almost a year and have been goin out for about 6 months... if u dont include a small break up of three weeks or sumtin. he cares about me more then every body i know and even tho he acts immature most of the time he has his moments when i know he'll be a great husband and a father. he's the best person i ever met and we talk everday with web cams and mics on msn. if u know us u know we love each other enough and we're mature enough... once agin... even tho we dont always act like it... but think of it this way... if we still love each other and want to get married in 4-5 years dont u think we'll be ready for it then? just cuz we'd be marryied wouldnt mean we'd have to start afamily right away
You are one of the few who are mature enough. I was engaged. In fact sadly i was suppose to marry this year, September 15 2007. But because of circumstances it didnt work. I still love him but i have to move on because he doesnt care about me. We got engaged at 18 and we broke up last year. I'm 21 now and i know that i couldnt handle it. So saying all that to say it is very rare to find a couple who is young stay together. In fact two friends of mines both got married, one at 18, the other at 21. The 21 yr old is in the process of a divorce after 2 months of being married, and the 18 yr old, seperated but i hear they are trying to work it out.